tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9972124688756344812024-03-13T10:43:49.142-07:00Notes From A BroadThe observations, ruminations, travels, and travails of a woman of a certain age, weight, height, and temperament.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.comBlogger157125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-82316715787803555032014-05-18T15:39:00.000-07:002014-05-25T16:04:25.809-07:00Feeling Fine in OaxacaA fat, little bird stares up at me with disapproving look on its face from the cage on the floor at my feet. Six small canaries flitter and twitter behind me while a parrot silently observes them from its own cage atop theirs. Seated in the shaded corner of the patio of this beautiful restaurant, I can boast of having the best seat in the house. I have a view of the tropical plants that bedeck one side of the patio, as well as the parade of four ornate bird cages and their captives. I can watch the kitchen staff frying and chopping, the waiters picking up plates and the dishwasher cleaning off trays. I can glimpse the traffic outside and can observe almost all of the patrons inside as they order and eat.<br />
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Although I am the only gringa in the place, this restaurant is no stranger to foreign clientele. The menu carries bad English translations and the waiter brings butter with the bread and tortilla chips. Obviously, my fellow United Statians have passed this way before.<br />
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I order the menu of the day and receive the first course post haste. A lovely cream of carrot soup complements its bright yellow bowl and goes down easily. A ceviche of cubes of mango, red peppers, and cucumber spills over a bed of green and purple lettuce. My golden chile relleno arrives in a pool of blood-red tomato sauce, nestled alongside a mound of snowy rice.<br />
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I bite into a mouthful and taste the spicy pepper and its cheesey filling. But wait, there´s something else! A rose bud, perhaps? Some rather large, oblong-shaped spice? I flip the stuffing over and see a squadron of grasshoppers partially submerged in the white cheese. Continuing to eat my lunch, I think I understand the source of my avian neighbor´s sour expression: I refuse to share. <br />
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Dessert is a fried plantain with a swizzle of sweetened condensed milk. Having downed all the food and a pitcher of flower-flavored water (agua de jamaica), I feel full, content and maybe because of all the coffee I drank this morning, just a little bit jumpy.....barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-20622059824159719362014-02-23T07:54:00.001-08:002014-02-23T07:54:16.226-08:00Adventures in ArabicIf you know me at all, you are aware that I am fascinated by languages. I speak English, Spanish, French, and Italian, in rapidly descending order of fluency. Although I once could manage to communicate about everyday matters and punctuation marks in Russian (thanks to 10 years spent teaching English to immigrants from the Former Soviet Union), I am now reduced to asking questions that even I don't understand. I used to speak <em>Guambiano</em>, an indigenous language only found in a particular region of Colombia; after years without practice, I remember how to ask if anyone is home. Nobody answers.<br />
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Bells go off, however, when I am offered the opportunity to learn a new language at my place of employment. Once a week, at lunchtime, I will study conversational Arabic. For years I've been wanting to do precisely this! Arabic tops the list of languages (the other is Mandarin) that I have promised myself I will learn to speak before I die. And as I'm not exactly certain just how long I'll be around, I am anxious to begin.<br />
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Knowing that I have several weeks to get a head start, I pull out the kit the father of one of my Arabic-speaking interns gave me about 11 years ago. Numerous books on calligraphy, tapes, and grammar study guides spill out. As my course-to-come won't even touch upon reading or writing, I return the contents to their carton.<br />
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No problem! There are 1001 ways to learn Arabic via the Internet. Over the next several days, I download the first program I find. Unfortunately, it isn't exactly what I'd had in mind. As much as I would love to understand the Qur'an in its original tongue, I want to speak -- not to pray -- in Arabic.<br />
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My next stop is the public library. I find three attractively produced, suitcase-sized boxes of books and CDs that might help me. But what I ultimately check out is the drab, little brown case containing two CDs that promise to teach me Iraqi Arabic. A fortunate coincidence! As I teach six Iraqi adults, one of whom used to be an Arabic instructor, I am certain that this set will give me the vocabulary I'll need to practice during class breaks at night school.<br />
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I stick CD number one into my car's player. I quickly pick up some of the some basics: how to ask males and females how they are and how members of each gender can answer, "Fine, thank you!" <br />
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"Perfect," I think. "Boy, am I going to surprise my students tonight!"<br />
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I arrive early and set about readying my classroom and myself for the evening's lesson. What luck! The first person to enter the room is Ibrahim*, an Iraqi musician. I smile and say, "How are you?", using the proper word endings for his gender. <br />
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He stares at me as if I were a deer his car is about to run into.<br />
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"How are you, Ibrahim*?" I ask again, a little less sure of myself.<br />
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He looks back at me, unblinking and, apparently, in shock. <br />
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"Don't you understand me?" I ask him.<br />
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"Iraqi Arabic," he says.<br />
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"Yes, and shouldn't you be replying 'I am fine, thank you?'" I show off my correct adjective ending, but he just repeats, "Iraqi Arabic."<br />
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Fatima*, the former Arabic teacher, saunters into the room. "Good evening," I say in English, following up with "How are you?" in what I am sure is a perfectly pronounced and grammatically correct way. <br />
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She stops in her tracks, giving me the same wide-eyed look that I'd received from her fellow country fellow.<br />
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I hear laughter coming from a Sudanese woman who has already found her seat in the middle of the room. "What is it, Huda*?" I ask.<br />
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"You speak Arabic like a baby," she says.<br />
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I take this as a compliment. <br />
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On the drive home I start my CD. "I nailed what I learned," I'm thinking to myself, as the CD plays. I know I can't learn everything in one night, so I just listen, certain that with constant review, I'll improve.<br />
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The CD voice moves along from basic greetings to family members. Now I'm at the lesson dealing with directions. "North," the man's voice says, first in English, then in Arabic. "South." "East." "West." These words are quickly followed by those for "right" and for "left."<br />
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It's late and it's dark and I'm starting to tire, but I figure that I'll stick it out until the end of this unit. My mind is drifting, when I'm called to attention by the CD man's voice shouting, "Drop to the ground! Hold your hands up over your head!"<br />
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I practically careen my car into a tree. I pull over, and pull out the little brown box from my glove compartment. I study it carefully, realizing that I have been learning Arabic targeted to U.S. soldiers who were being deployed for combat in Iraq. <br />
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I decide to postpone my private studies and to wait to learn Arabic in class. The day before I am scheduled to begin my course, I learn that it has been cancelled. <br />
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Disappointed, I enroll in Italian 102. At some point during the first session, it dawns on me that I have no command, whatsoever, of this language -- beyond an ability to order pasta; apparently, nobody has informed me that I've been speaking Spanish all along.<br />
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* Names have been changed, sometimes more than once, to protect the innocent.<br />
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<em></em><br />barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-53627563602120205012013-02-03T14:03:00.002-08:002014-01-05T15:08:46.374-08:00Learn to Speak German -- like an American!Germans are a friendly people. Everywhere you go, they greet you with a smile and a big "Hello!" Only it sounds like "hallo," because of their accents. So, everything starts out very nice and you're just about to launch into a conversation about the weather or punctuality or neatness or whatever, when they begin talking to you in a whole different language!<br />
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I am proud to say that during my recent stay in Germany, and with the help of my extensive knowledge of linguistics and an uncanny ability to quickly mistress foreign languages, I was able to understand almost everything that German people said to me, when they were speaking English. Furthermore, having spent nearly 12 days in that delightful country, I feel singularly confident about and absolutely capable of offering you an introductory lesson in how to speak German like an American. But not just like any random American -- like me! And not exactly German.<br />
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I wouldn't be so bold as to pretend to teach you High, Low, or Medium German, or any of the numerous and sundry dialects spoken within and without this beautiful country; however, I will pretend to teach you the fastest and easiest way to speak a frothy hybrid of English and German that I call "Germish."<br />
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This is not the sort of language training you would find in a school, such as the Goethe Institute; in a Berlitz, on-line, CD, or video course; or in a Rosetta Stone program. That is because this lesson combines my very own personal and impersonal experience, plus real and unreal attempts by yours truly to use German in public and in private. Why pay thousands of dollars for an immersion program (or even ten cents for a yard-sale CD?) to end up speaking not very good German, when you can use my techniques for speaking not very good German -- for free?<br />
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But before we begin, I would like to recommend that you keep on hand at all times, and especially when you go outside, a bilingual (German-English) person, preferably a teacher of German as a second language, such as my good friend Ingrid, who is not available because she is too busy actually teaching "real" German to foreigners. Also, you will need to read or, better yet, just sign the attached disclaimer, which absolves me from any liability, culpability, or responsibility arising from the use or misuse of what you are about to learn.<br />
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So, without further ado, let's get started, shall we?<br />
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We start by finding similarities and differences between English and German.<br />
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First of all, you'll be glad to know that German is just like English! But with a bunch of extra k's, p's, z's, g's, f's, h's, and d's thrown in. Up to 10 or 12 in every word. Examples, and I am not lying, include such humminzedingerz as: <i>pfepfernussen, plotz, kerpunkte, Kongressabgeordnete </i>(Congressman),<b> </b>and, of course, the always useful, but rather intimidating <i>Rindfleischetikettierungsüberwachungsauf-gabenübertragungsgesetz</i><b><i> </i>(</b>meaning: beef labeling regulation & delegation of supervision law).<br />
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Don't let a Congressman or beef labeling scare you! Despite a plethora of consonants, German doesn't need all those pesky vowels in syllables. So, you can find words such as "<i>markt</i>," which your German teacher would translate to mean "market." And there's probably another example I might be able to come up with later.<br />
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Talking about vowels leads me to the u with two dots over it, the umlaut. Neither the vowel nor the sound made by this letter exists in English and it is probably illegal in the continental United States. However, they do things differently over there in the European Common Markt, so I advise you to use it while in Germany. (But don't even think about smuggling it home in your suitcase!)<br />
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You are probably wondering how to make this vowel sound, and that's exactly what I'm about to teach you: Purse your lips and imagine that you are looking at what I am certain is your very attractive reflection in a mirror. Then imagine that someone suddenly sneaks up behind you and smashes you, lips first, into the mirror. The sound you would emit is the closest you'll come to producing a bonafide umlauted u! Now, <b>Ü</b> try it!<br />
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Practice makes perfect, so keep trying.<br />
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Trying brings us to the next part of our lesson, in which you will really get a feel for your soon-to-be-new language: cognates. Cognates are words that look somewhat alike, sound more or less the same, and have the same meaning in two languages. Some examples in English and German include:<br />
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House = <i>Haus</i><br />
Kabob =<i> Kabop</i><br />
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See if you can translate the following cognates into English words: <i>Delicatessen, Donut, Starbucks, McDonalds, Staples, Burger King</i>.<br />
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Great job! Whoever said that German was difficult? <br />
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Now, let's have a bit more fun with pronunciation..... <br />
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A challenging sound for most Americans is the "ch." I'm going to make it easy for you, however. Just pretend that you've got a frog in your throat. A live one, medium sized. Now, forcefully try to expectorate it. (Translation: hack it up!) The sound you and the frog make is what we're looking for here. Piece of cake --- or as they say in German: "<i>Ein shtuk der kochen!</i>" Now, say that five times for practice.<br />
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The "r" sound is not trilled as they pronounce it in Spanish; it's more like a French roll (a.k.a. croissant). You can replicate this sound by growling, while attempting to eject the frog slime out of the middle of your upper palate. Simple, yet effective: RRRRGH! RRRRGH!<br />
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Just for fun, why not combine these two new sounds? You can do it, I know you can! You make the sounds; I'll give you the clues and encouragement. Ready, set, go! Frog in throat -- out! Slime in palate -- off! Repeat!<br />
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If by any chance you feel that you are no closer to speaking German than you were when you began this session, I'd like to make you feel better by sharing a dirty little secret with you. Go ahead and ask Germans what language they speak, and they'll tell you "<i>Deutch</i>," which you would expect to be the native tongue of the people from the Netherlands, nee Holland. So, don't feel bad! Even Germans don't speak German! <br />
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barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-59460474544259437472012-10-31T13:39:00.000-07:002012-10-31T13:39:02.667-07:00Memories of Mexico (Mexico City, Mexico)I've been back at home for a couple of months, but I keep thinking about Mexico. This is what I remember -- with a little help from my notes -- from this past summer:<br />
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Spending time with my daughter. Seeing her fall in love with the colors, the sounds, the people of this beautiful, vibrant country.<br />
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Hundreds of shawls and scarves (I stop counting at 400) draped around the altar, over huge candlesticks, and what looks to me to be a giant gyroscope. Traditional <i>serapes</i> snuggling up to belly-dance be-dangled hip wear, all hanging from the branches of candelabras and the arms of the larger-than-life Jesus, who is dressed in a full-length, purple and gold-cross embossed gown with white lace collars and cuffs. A neon-pink, fringed shawl is folded over one of his arms, while a white, wool and polyester blend is slung jauntily over a shoulder. I don't know the background, but the sight of <i>El Senor de los rebozos</i> at the Church of Santo. Domingo is quite impressive.<br />
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I only eat two of my four <i>churros </i>with the hot, dark chocolate at <i>El Moro</i>. Of course, I want more, but it wasn't I who belly danced for several hours; I am with family and friends of Miriam, who had invited me to witness her <i>baile arabe</i> performance.<br />
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Not many United Statians stay at the Hotel I., but I am delighted to meet Stephen, a professor of English as a Second Language who carries out his project of recording street musicians, so that they can sell and profit from the CDs he then gifts them.<br />
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Lots of Mexicans think that I am French, but I am especially flattered when a bunch of Parisians think that I am one of them -- <u>after</u> I've spoken to them in their <i>langue</i>.<br />
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Ingrid and I debate the advantages of sex vs. chewing gum to achieve weight loss. We practically shoot wine out of our nostrils, an action which might serve (if done regularly) to help lose pounds, too.<br />
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Museo de la Chancilleria (The Museum of Historic and Artistic Patrimony of the Secretary of Foreign Relations): Exhibit of contemporary artists' views of nature, including industrialization vs the environment, and questions of religion and philosophy that go beyond nature. The building itself is fascinating, especially the weird little baby angels with their bulging, vacuous eyes, that ring the cupola. (http://sre.gob.mx/images/stories/infografias/museocancilleria/museo.html)<br />
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The Design Museum's show, featuring photographs of Mexico as it is or as the photographers wish it to be. Lots of landscapes and faces, those of the elderly particularly tender, emotive, and provocative. (http://www.mumedi.org/User/)<br />
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: Built as a church in 1594, the Secretary of Public Education is housed in a Baroque-style building, reconstructed in the mid-17th century. The most notable features are the 200 or so Diego Rivera murals on the ground and third floors (or what would be called the 2nd floor, here in Mexico). Themes encompass various types of work (farming, baking, etc.), Mexican people and traditions (from dances to festivals), and critiques of capitalism. (Especially witty is the scene of the wealthy dining on plates of coins, a little boy crying as he eyes his serving). Rivera depicts some of the leaders of Mexican revolutionary struggles, such as Emiliano Zapata, as saints or religious figures. I make two visits here, the second to make sure I didn't miss any of the murals, as the first time I flew through too quickly.<br />
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Not only are hundreds of different breads, pastries, cookies, muffins, and more for sale at the main branch of the Ideal Bakery, but the second floor brims with fantastic cakes (in a variety of styles and colors, some unknown in nature) for weddings, <i>quinceaneras</i>, births, graduations, and other occasions. (http://www.pasteleriaideal.com.mx/)<br />
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In my on-going search for a place in which to take lessons in Mixtec, I am directed to the Club de Periodistas. Unfortunately, the only indigenous language taught was Nahuatl, but -- even worse news -- the instructor died recently. I visit the institute for indigenous languages that I'd found on line, but it's a mere shell of a building. Maybe next time....<br />
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An impressive exhibit of crafts at the Palacio de Cultura Banamex, produced by 450 artisans from throughout Latin America (22 countries), entitled Grand Masters of Popular Art. This is an extraordinary, breath-taking look at crafts made of wood, clay, metals, gourds, skins, stone, paper, and textiles, intended for daily or ceremonial\ritual use, or for mere (or not so mere) decoration. <br />
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I make numerous walk-bys and walk-throughs of the Zocalo. Because of the recent elections, this is the first time in years that the plaza isn't obscured by white tents hosting exhibits. For the first time, I view the spectacle of platoons of soldiers marching to the center of this huge plaza, playing martial music, saluting, lowering, and folding the Mexican flag with great solemnity and ceremony. <br />
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Dancing in the Salon Hidalgo, the Salon de Convenciones, and Ciudadela Park. Salsa, cumbia, and son cubano with known and unknown partners. I learn a couple of new steps, flub a number of fancy moves, and almost land on my ass when a particularly jubilant guy thinks that I am more advanced than I am and simultaneously throws, spins, and drops me. I leave one of my partners open-mouthed and empty-armed when I flee his obnoxious attempts to manhandle me. I thwart the uninvited onslaughts of drenched-in-sweat, over-zealous guys, men who hold me as if they want to stuff me down their shirts, and youngsters looking for a mommy or a cougar or just a ticket to the US. Also reject the come-ons of an elderly gent who confides that he's a politician from Guanajuato, out on the town in a place where he can "have fun" without being recognized. And then there are the majority of men with whom I dance: friendly, polite, and fun.<br />
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Food and drink: A tasty mushroom omelet at Cafe Dzeb; Chinese buffet (yay, vegetables!); a vegetarian multi-course lunch where the <i>torta </i>of <i>nopales</i> (sort of a thick, eggy pancake with cactus paddles) in a light tomato sauce and the chewy, nutty whole grain roll are standouts; yogurt with fresh strawberries, honey, and a dusting of granola on days when I eat lunch; the huge breakfasts, now with cornflakes and milk (too, too much! I can't!), in addition to vegetable soup, fruit salad, eggs (<i>rancheros</i> or Mexican style), roll, <i>chilaquiles</i>, and <i>cafe con leche</i> at Cafe Rex; rotisserie chicken to go; addictive, salty, roasted pumpkin seeds and the spicy broad beans that I've turned Ingrid onto, also; tinga (shredded chicken in tomato sauce) as the main course in one of my greasy spoons; <i>aguas</i> (flavored fruit waters) of lemon and tamarind; chicken in peanut and almond sauces.<br />
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At the <i>Parque de la Ciudadela</i>, I say <i>adios</i> to my dance
partners and acquaintances while changing from my strappy dance shoes to
my comfortable, but ugly, walking shoes. I am distracted by the people approaching to give me a
hug and/or ask about when I'll be back. Finally, I head for the metro.
Halfway there, I glance down at my feet and notice that I'm wearing a
clodhopper on one foot and an inch-high heel on the other. I am laughing
so hard that I attract the interest and mirth of people seated on
nearby benches. <br />
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Ingrid and I go out for ice cream on my last night. It pours as we go back to the hotel, so I use the <i>paella</i>
pan I just purchased to protect myself and my cup of chocolate nut
deliciousness from the rain. My back is soggy and the dessert is
semi-melted by the time we reach the lobby, but I still enjoy the
bittersweet treat.<br />
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I remember all this and more. Is it any surprise that I always want to return? <br />
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<br />barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-27714398012848021012012-10-29T13:31:00.001-07:002012-10-29T13:31:37.976-07:00FirehouseI don't think I told you about the first fire, the one that my poor friends-cum-emergency contacts were getting multiple calls about from the alarm company. The one that had them leaving frantic calls for me to get in touch with them and with the fire department. The one that had them suggesting that I find other emergency contacts.<br /><br />Well, after picking up their 30 messages on my cell hone, I flew home to find a note from the fire fighters on my kitchen table. The note explained that they had answered the call, entered the house through a second-story window, thoroughly investigated, and found..... nothing.<br /><br />I called the Chief to thank him and to get more details, because there was a definite smokey smell that greeted me when I wandered through the house. After explaining that, despite using the most up-to-date equipment (including thermal imaging and, no doubt, giant axes, helmets, and big boots) and despite the fact that there really had been a fire that his men could not locate, he admitted to being baffled.<br /><br />"It smelled to us like burnt hair. Did you use a curling iron this morning?" he asked me.<br /><br />"You've never seen me," I said, "or you would know the answer to that question.I don't own a curling iron because I come by my curls and frizz naturally." I didn't tell him that I don't even own a comb....<br /><br />"Well, did you roast some meat?" he asked.<br /><br />"I'm a pseudo-vegetarian," I said. "I sometimes cook poultry or fish, but usually not in the morning."<br /><br />It was later that evening that I began to sniff whiffs of what started out smelling like a barbeque (hold the sauce) and, within a few days, swelled to the stench of a week-long garbage strike in Manhattan or a month-long power outage in a busy morgue. Quite quickly, M. and I came to the conclusion that a critter had bit the dust by biting a live wire in the wall.<br /><br />The odor worsened and persisted for quite some time. It seemed to emanate from the stairwell. If you saw me during this time, you might have wondered why my nose looked so red, and now you know what happens to someone who has to pinch her proboscis over a protracted period.<br /><br />In time, the house returned to its normal homey odors and life went on, as unusual.<br /><br />Then, last week, the fire alarms went off at 4:20 in the morning. I slipped on a particularly fetching pair of undies. (My mother always told me to make sure that my lingerie was clean and attractive, in case I should end up in a car crash or a house fire and the EMTs have to cut through my clothes). I pulled on the first pair of jeans I could grab, a tattered t-shirt -- what difference would it make if they might have to slash through it, anyway? -- and some ratty sneakers.<br />
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What else did I pick up as I tore out of the smoke-filling bedroom, down the staircase, and out the front door? No priceless and irreplaceable photos of my beloved son as a baby and toddler nor of my long-deceased and much loved parents or of the even longer-dead and un-labeled relatives. None of the semi-precious jewelry I've collected nor the treasures I've accrued in my travels. Not my favorite blouse. Not a single thing to wear to the office or to salsa in. I grabbed only one valuable (i.e., my passport) and a purse bulging, as I soon discovered, with cap-less pens, half-used lipsticks, wadded-up tissues, a dollar bill, and a couple of pennies.<br /><br />Some of the same firefighters who'd previously visited stopped by again, along with some first-timers, in four shiny firetrucks. To make a second story short, this time there was, indeed, a fire. Luckily, it extinguished on its own, before the firefighters got there. <br /><br />"Do you cut hair?" the biggest fireman asked me.<br /><br />"Not even my own," I replied. "Why do you ask?"<br /><br />"We found some long, singed hair up in the attic," he told me. This, just in time for Halloween!<br /><br />M. kept the evidence: a reeking patch of blackened skin and, burnt-to-a-crisp, yet still-curly, hair. He showed it to the insurance adjuster, who, with a contractor, found some bones (critter number one?) in one of the dead ducts leading from the air handler. <br /><br /> Perhaps the racoons that had long frolicked in the attic, but from whom I hadn't heard a peep or a squeak in about half a year and whom I haven't ever seen hide nor hair of, have finally left my house -- along with their hides and their hairs. In the meantime, and as repairs are being made, I'm insisting that M. put up a trap and install new fire alarms. And I'm making a generous donation to my friends at the fire department. <br />barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-12539699661147980402012-08-03T11:28:00.000-07:002012-08-03T11:28:19.307-07:00First Class (Mexico City, Mexico)I feel like I'm in a vacuum tube or something. Very little news of the
world outside reaches me. I´ve heard that it's sweltering back
home. No surprise: it's August! I heard about the shocking shootings at
the midnight screening of the new Batman film. I saw a newspaper today
that said that Obama maintains a lead in popularity polls in the swing
states of Ohio, Florida and Pennsylvania. I read that there's severe
drought in some of the farm states, so food prices are sure to rise.
I catch the Olympics on TV from time to time, so I know that Mexico has
scored medals in diving and that many athletes have done the US
proud. I'm certain that more is being reported -- most of it bad -- and
that I'll learn more than I want to know once I get back to the States.<br /><br />Meanwhile,
I spend my days in awe of the industriousness and creativity of Mexicans, who utilize
every nook and cranny of buildings, alleys, sidewalks, and metro stations and cars, to sell
everything and anything to passersby. I wander about, stopping from time
to time to gaze up at a magnificent building, to visit a museum, or to
buy a bite or a meal from a street vendor or in a restaurant. In the
evenings, I dance my daily calorie intake off, arrive at my hotel early,
wash my clothes in the sink, and sink into bed. I turn the TV on and
wake up, between two and four in the morning, to the same shows I was
watching when I fell asleep. <br /><br />These are my last couple of days in
Mexico City, and I already
feel sad as I say farewell to friends and acquaintances I may not see
again. This morning at one of my regular breakfast spots, an employee
greeted me with a giant smile, a bear hug, and a big, fat kiss on
the cheek. As I told her goodbye, the waitress told me how she always
looks forward to seeing
me and put down her armload of plates to embrace me. I left the banana
that the obnoxious owner
placed on my table as a "gift." I passed my friendly neighborhood <i>tacos de canasta</i> guy and waved hello, knowing that I probably won't have time for another taco before I go. <br /><br />I've
got most meals planned out for the rest of my time here: Saturday's
breakfast will be a hearty buffet -- fresh fruit and juice, eggs, breads
and sweet rolls, <i>chilaquiles</i>, perhaps a <i>guisado</i> (a main dish -- but only if it's poultry or fish, no more other meats for me!), and <i>cafe con leche bien cargado</i>
(a super-charged latte). I'll need the sustenance, as I'll be skipping
lunch before heading to my favorite park to dance most of the afternoon
away. I might take some food to eat in my hotel room (roasted chicken
from the rotisserie; a thin, crisp, whole grain flatbread, and a <i>gelatina</i>
with a prune, a chunk of canned peach, and a walnut from a nearby
bakery) before I ready myself to attend a Middle Eastern dance
presentation in which a friend will be performing. I'll get a freshly
squeezed oj, a cheese and mushroom omelette, some black beans,
tortillas, and the requisite <i>cafe con leche</i> from one of the
small, humble restaurants that is open on Sundays. Eating out options
are always more limited on this, most people's day of rest, so I don't
know if or what I'll eat before heading out to a museum and to my last
evening of dancing. My last full day will be Monday, so I might eat a<i> tamal</i> of <i>rayas con queso</i> (a tamale with cheese and green pepper strips), a chocolate <i>atole </i>(a corn-based drink with the consistency of a thin gruel)<i> </i>,
and some papaya and mango chunks from sidewalk stands and catch up on
my vegetable quotient at a Chinese buffet or a vegetarian restaurant.
Perhaps a glass of red wine later in the evening in the company of my
friend, I, along with a handful of salty, spicy peanuts with fried,
whole garlic cloves and hot peppers. Maybe a little bag of addictive,
toasted and salted pumpkin seeds. Before I leave town on Tuesday
morning, I´ll grab a filling breakfast at another buffet to keep me
satisfied until they feed me lunch (!) on my plane. <br />
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Lest you think that I'm kidding, I have to report how sorry the
airline was to inform me that there were no seats in Coach or
Business Class or Under the Fuselage, so they had to put me in First
Class for every step of each of my flights to and from Mexico. Oh, well.
If someone has to bear the indignities of having more leg room than I
would need if my legs were twice as long as they are, of having more
elbow room than I would need if my elbows were twice as what? sharp?
bent? outstretched? as they can be, of being served a meal, snacks, and
beverages that are twice as good (although they're not great...) as what are offered in the fast food
airport locations -- and which are already included in the price of my
flight -- well, that someone might as well be me! I´ve already learned
from my experience in getting here, that First Class is about a
gazillion times better than other classes. Not only did I get on and
off my flights sooner than everybody else, but the planes seemed to
arrive at their destinations faster and smoother. <br /><br />barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-69693485648871091152012-07-24T12:55:00.000-07:002012-07-24T13:02:55.570-07:00"The Sex Capital of the World" (Mexico City, Mexico)I'm sitting in the front of a Chinese restaurant.Traffic streams by. The noise level is high. There's the sound of dishes clinking and the steady murmurs of the diners surrounding me. There's the
constant thud, thud, thud of bass, waves of roiling techno music that
never change or stop. Only later am I able to
understand the incessant blare of a man's voice over a loudspeaker, touting the cleanliness of the nearby public toilets. <br />
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The front of the restaurant is completely open to the street. As the wind picks up, it works its way into the plastic Waldo`s bag I had placed on the table, making the handles sway seductively.<br />
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I look up from my heaping plate of garlicky string beans, grilled chicken, and broccoli, and realize that I have a direct, perfect view across the street and into "The Sex Capital of the World." <br />
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Perhaps
your imagination is wilder than mine is -- or your experience broader --
but I am stumped by what I see: long-sleeved, plaid shirts, Michoacan
ice cream, baseball caps, cell phone accouterments, and Betty Boop umbrellas. These everyday items don't fit with my concept of sex, but to each his/her own, right?<br />
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I am probably watching too many shows on the Travel and Living (TLC) Channel, because I decide to visit "The Sex Capital of the World" after lunch. <br />
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In the meantime, a sudden dive in temperature presages a downpour. Of course, I've left my raincoat in the hotel room, so as the clouds let go, I am forced to dawdle over the remains of my seafood soup, Chop Suey, octopus, jello, mango, and papaya.<br />
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The young woman who has been sashaying back and forth in front of the restaurant to entice passersby inside, shelters in the doorway. She's still showing off the enormous, photo-heavy menu, but as she shivers in her ditsy-bitsy, backless mini-dress, she seems less suited to promoting the world's largest Chinese buffet than "The Sex Capital of the World," which I will herein refer to as "The Big C."<br />
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As the rain dies down, I pay my bill, then sprint between cars. I note, but do not heed, the message printed on the side of a little Coke delivery truck: <i>"As hard as it might be, maintain your distance.</i>" I am committed to seeing "The Big C" with my very own eyes, and nothing will dissuade me.<br />
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As is the case with many multistory buildings in Mexico City, this edifice houses the equivalent of a mini mall. There are hundreds of shops, booths, and stalls occupying almost every inch of space, save for the narrow corridors that allow you to visit each one. I pass the displays that I had already glimpsed from across the street, making my way inside with a certain wariness.<br />
<br />
Look! Here's a display of Pampers wipes and another of socks embroidered with Minnie Mouse, Ernie, Bert, and Cookie Monster. Huh?<br />
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Then I come across a huge "exhibit" of boxer shorts, frankly, the most unsexy I've every beheld. The colors are neon -- orange, green, and red -- and words, such as "strangled," adorn them. Huh??<br />
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Next, I see the toys: Transformers, Captain America, and Batman action figures. I'm already well into the bowels of "The Big C," and completely baffled.<br />
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Okay, hold your horses! Now we're talkin'! Next to the shop selling "Instant Lunch" ramen noodles, <i>Boing</i> fruity sodas, and beautiful, hand-sewn Barbie prom gowns is XAVIERA'S SEXY LINGERIE SHOP. A male mannequin, listing at the entry, is dressed in what I believe must be a (plastic) gladiator costume: a studded collar and a skirt. Hanging above his head are little, plastic French maids' outfits, teeny, plastic nurses' uniforms, and a plastic leopard-skin bustier with garter straps. Hot!!! I mean, wouldn't the plastic be hot? Everything looks like a super-cheap Halloween costume.<br />
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I move along to LOVER'S SEX SHOP. Here, I see packages of "Beer Garden Babe," "Santa's Favorite Elf," and "Bad Apple Snow White" costumes. They also sell computer parts.<br />
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The acrylic nail shop next door is draped with thongs, padded jock straps, and fancy hair pins. No nails, acrylic or otherwise.<br />
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I decide not to ascend the staircase to tour the rest of "The Big C." I didn't know what to expect when I entered, but it was rather a disappointment. Although the mango with chili ice cream pop I bought from the Michoacan franchise was really, really hot.<br />
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<br />barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-49765639400871246312012-07-15T15:07:00.000-07:002012-07-15T15:07:48.449-07:00Sick and Tired (Mexico City, Mexico)Was it the mutton for breakfast? The taco stacked with steak that I tasted last night? Is it all the street food I`ve devoured? The greasy spoons I`ve so enjoyed?<br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;">I don't know and I don't care, but I'll tell you something: It really stinks to be shivering, achy, and nauseous and to suffer from Moctezuma's revenge, especially when I have to run down a corridor to use the bathroom. Plus, it is really clammy and </span><span style="background-color: white;">cold today. The rain pours through the glass ceiling and into the hallway. I worry about slipping as I sprint down the hallway. </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;">I can't drag myself to the Internet cafe to communicate with family and friends. I </span>don't have the strength to go down to the hotel lobby to find out from I. when she wants to go out walkin<span style="background-color: white;">g tomorrow. </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;">Don't want to dehydrate, so I down as much water as I can. Bathroom run. More water. And so on.</span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;">I watch one show after another on TV. One is an interesting travelogue about Perth, Australia. I don't have any idea what the others are, as I keep falling in and out of sleep. I turn off the tube when Perth reruns. </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;">At about 4:00 a.m., I pop a couple of Pepto Bismol tablets. I drink more water. My tongue turns black. </span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span><br />
<span style="background-color: white;">While I am here, I resolve not to eat any more meat; I don't think my system can handle it. I'm not swearing off of anything else, though. Except, maybe, late-night television. </span>barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-5700205709460287692012-07-13T15:46:00.003-07:002012-07-13T16:08:44.043-07:00The Eyes Have Had It (Mexico City, Mexico)It's hot tonight in the Salon de Convenciones dance hall. No, I lied; it's sweltering. There's no air conditioning, and the ceiling fans are working so hard they're running out of steam. <br />
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But not so the fans of dance. A thousand or so people cram into two huge rooms, one featuring a live band playing mostly <i>danzon</i>, the other showcasing a group playing <i>salsa</i> and <i>cumbia</i> covers. It's 7 :00, already too late to find a table untaken, a seat un-sat-in. <br />
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I pick my way through the <i>salsa</i> room, looking for people I know and a place to stash my sweater and Japanese fan and to change into my dancing shoes. A male acquaintance shepherds me to a table where two women are waiting patiently to be asked to dance. As I swap my footwear, we introduce ourselves. Then I'm off to <i>salsa</i>.<br />
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The place has been renovated since I was here last year. The formerly cracked and pitted linoleum floors are newly tiled in shiny white and black, and the ceilings are hung with some sort of sculpted black and white architectural forms. Everything looks fresher and cleaner -- except for the dancers, myself included, who are dripping like sea lions just up from the ocean.<br />
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In addition to six or eight old and young dance buddies, I've attracted a new, sweat-soaked partner who helicopters five feet around my table, trying to catch my eye. I take frequent trips to the ladies' room, to escape his steady, sweaty gaze. <br />
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Whenever I'm not dancing or escaping, I spend time inching around the peripheries of the dance floors, searching for my daughter and her friend and his friends, who may or may not be coming to meet me. Along the way, and despite my honest protestations that I really do not dance <i>danzon</i>, I end up <i>danzon</i>ing part of the evening away, anyway.<br />
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I tell everyone to keep an eye out for my daughter.<br />
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¨What does she look like?¨ they all ask. <br />
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¨She´ll be the prettiest woman you see,¨ I tell them. ¨Long, thick, black curly hair; coffee-colored skin; dark brown eyes...¨ I haven´t even finished, but they're all on the look-out and can´t wait to meet her.<br />
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I stop to watch the best dancers do their moves. Five gay guys are putting on an electrifying show. Energetic, sexy, creative, acrobatic, they´re putting everybody else to shame. I want to ask them where they learned to dance. I want them to teach me. I want to dance with them. They don´t ask me to. <br />
<br />
One of my young friendboys grabs my hand. We locate a spot in the corner, under a fan, where we actually have room to maneuver. He´s fun to salsa with, and I´m really getting into the swing of things when I suddenly discover why this coolish corner is relatively empty.<br />
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Friendboy flips my hand so that my back is facing him and my face is facing the men's room, to which there is no door. This ¨open-door¨ policy yields a direct view into private moments that nobody should be privy to. As I catch sight of a line of huge, hairy bellies, I thank fate for contact lenses that have not restored my vision to 20\20. Still, truly horrifeyed, I fight my partner´s lead in an attempt to turn around and away. <br />
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Friendboy wants another go-round, but I want to move out of the line of sights. I also realize that FB has been dancing with me a little too often, smiling at me a little too much, looking into my eyes a little too intently. I send him off to find a younger partner. When he returns, after just one number, I tell him to ask the two women at my table to dance. One at a time.<br />
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It´s 9:00. My daughter and friends have not showed, or they are lost among the pulsating crowds. I head for the subway, in the company of several of my friends. <br />
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<br />barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-75749820342967263482012-07-08T15:51:00.000-07:002012-07-08T15:51:37.740-07:00Car Sick (Richmond, VA)I (almost) run into a colleague as I'm pulling out of a parking lot. "Whoa!" he shouts. "Your tire!"<br />
<br />
Apparently, it's the belt. Even I can see that the tire looks like it's wearing a gauze bandage, although if that's a belt, call a style doctor!<br />
<br />
Belt or bandage, this is really bad news. Within a week after replacing tires on my previous two cars, they passed into Auto Heaven. They died of different causes, too sad and too fresh to write about right now, but they were both completely and irrevocably dead. <br />
<br />
"You can't drive on the highway like that," my Harbinger of Doom warns me. He advises me to go to Costco, where they'll put on a new tire and rotate it --isn't that what one does when one drives one's car???-- for a good price.<br />
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The price is very good for Costco, but it ain't that great for me. I don't think my car is worth $108 at this point, especially since it's likely to join its predecessors before it rotates its belt too much.<br />
<br />
Do I really need a shiny, new tire? I think not.<br />
<br />
I head over to a shop that features retired tires. A fellow pops one on within about 15 minutes. I don't think he rotates or balances, but a smooth ride would be an alien experience and with the potholed roads I regularly travel, it probably wouldn't last the short lifetime of my car. I think that my car IS probably worth $30.00.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-20617902074398029102012-07-07T18:27:00.000-07:002012-07-07T18:27:04.222-07:00High Anxiety (Richmond, VA)I hate to fly. Surrendering control to somebody who might have suffered a bad night's sleep, who might have a hangover or be taking meds (Warning: You may become drowsy. Do not operate heavy machinery or even think of piloting a plane within four months of taking this medication), who might be revisiting a heated argument with a spouse, or who might be holding a grudge against employer or colleagues or the the world, does not put me at ease. I know that I'm statistically safer on a Boeing than in a Buick, but call me irrational -- I still think that if I am already on the ground, rather than diving into it, I'll have a better shot at walking away from a crash.<br />
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So, during take off and landing and anytime I'm conscious in-between, I'm white-knuckling it. Sweat trickles down my back. My hands are clammy. My face is ashen.<br />
<br />
I always listen attentively to the flight attendant's instructions. I securely fasten my seat belt. I note the exit doors in front of and behind me. In case the lights along the aisle do not come on, I count the rows to the nearest and next-nearest exits (because if the nose of the plane meets a mountain, the closest doors might not open). I mentally rehearse the steps to adjust the mask that will drop down if we experience a loss of cabin pressure, which would, by its very dropping, precipitate my rapid, panicked breathing which would, in turn, surely suck up every molecule of oxygen in the airplane and probably the universe. I try not to focus on that remark about the oxygen bag not inflating, but I can't help but imagine my face reddening and my eyes widening as I gasp myself to death, should it malfunction. I resist the urge to check if that is really a flotation device or if it's just a seat cushion, made of cheap fabric. I refrain from removing it to test its float-ability in the toilet, although I have an overwhelming desire to do so.<br />
<br />
As my uneasiness turns to queasiness, the person sitting next to me is requesting a change of seat. This is a shame, because if he would only speak to me, I would feel better and most likely not dig my fingernails into the fleshy part of his forearm.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-28188807657684786022012-06-28T14:56:00.000-07:002012-06-28T14:56:25.909-07:00Worse Carma -- Give me a break! (Richmond, VA)I usually leave my daytime job and stop for a while in a bookstore en route to my second job. But I find myself closer to home this afternoon, so I head there, thinking that I'll try to catch a short nap, eat, or relax before re-jumping into the fray.<br />
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Instead of taking the highway, I choose surface streets through residential neighborhoods. I'm enjoying the thought of my impending rest-stop, as I stop at a stop sign. I look both ways but don't catch sight of the school bus hiding behind the hedge in the middle of the median strip until I almost hit it. I hit the brakes, instead. With the sounds of the students' curses ringing in my ears, I take a deep breath to calm my shakes and carefully make my way home.<br />
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I'm at the laptop for about half an hour when someone starts banging on the door. When I look out the keyhole, I spot a school bus parked on the corner and a cop on my porch.<br />
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"Oh, my God," I'm thinking. "I didn't run the stop sign. The bus didn't have its signs out or its lights flashing. I can't believe they'd come after me for "almost" having an accident!"<br />
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I'm shaking as I open the door.<br />
<br />
The officer greets me with, "Is that your car, Ma'am?"<br />
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The bus driver was turning the corner and took off the front bumper and headlight of M's car. I don't have a key and I'm going to be late for night school.<br />
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I give the officer M's phone number and insurance info, and drive off to job #2.<br />
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Traffic is bad. I figure I better move to my right long before I need to exit. A car towing a flatbed trailer, full of lawn care equipment and supplies, slides in ahead of me. I turn to make sure I've got enough room to change lanes and begin to move over. When I look back, the trailer is stopped directly in front of me. I hit the breaks and miss the trailer by about six inches. <br />
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Will somebody please pick me up from work tonight?????barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-75906424217651089182012-06-20T13:00:00.000-07:002012-06-20T13:00:02.423-07:00Bus, Stop! (En route to New York City)The left side of my backside is numb from sitting beside a 300-pound woman whose bottom spreads onto my seat the way the tide sends tendrils of water into the nooks and crannies of a sea-level cave. I think that I'm actually sitting on her lap. I'm so dwarfed by her that I worry that she'll tilt me back and stick a bottle in my mouth. <br />
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Every few minutes, but with no discernible pattern or warning, she flicks the filmy fabric that covers her head and upper body. Flick. Flick. Flick. It lightly brushes my arms and face, making me itch. <br />
<br />
There are no vacant seats. There is no escape. <br />
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Feet block the aisle leading to the on-board restroom, which boasts neither rest nor room and not even a working sink, much less toilet paper. Trying to use the facility is anything but facile; as one attempts to lower one's pants, one is batted about, slammed into the wall, threatened with tipping headlong into the reeking, bottomless toilet, ricocheted around like a marble spinning, churning, smashing along its frenzied zigzag through a pinball machine maze. In order to avoid this experience, I refuse all liquids for hours before and during my trip. So now I'm head-achy, grouchy and nauseous. And I have to use the foul WC, anyway. I might never make it out. If I do, I might die of dehydration.<br />
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Maybe I should hope for a bottle, after all!barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-16146797819861706662012-05-10T15:23:00.000-07:002012-05-10T15:23:06.865-07:00Bad Carma (Richmond, VA)A friend advises me to get a Mercedes, but if you can't afford to fix it, you can't afford to buy such a vehicle. I can't and I don't. Sure it'd be swell to find myself behind the wheel of a cute little Mini, a shiny Jaguar, a sporty convertible. But the truth is that looks have to take a back seat to practicality. I need a car that will take me where I want to go. Style is not the top priority.<br />
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But I've been going to the garage in my not-so-new Nissan more often than I've been going anywhere else. I've replaced more parts than the human body has bones. Still, there's a whining sound when I turn the steering wheel, there's a bucking feel when I try to pick up speed, and every week the tires seem to be more -- well, tired. <br />
<br />
I've added oil and some thick gunk that will plug the hole in the oil tank but will lead -- in time -- to the demise of the vehicle. I've added steering fluid to stop the whining and some gunk to plug the leak from its container and/or hose. I'm toting around more fluids and stop-gap liquids in my trunk than a hypochondriac has medicines in his bathroom cabinet. I might as well buy stock in Autozone because I've already purchased half of what they stock. <br />
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So, last week I park in front of the health food store. I run in to pick up a few items. As I get back into my car, I spot an acquaintance I haven't seen in ages. We chat for a minute, he leaves, and I start the car. I put it in reverse, but I can't back up. The car is running, but it isn't going anywhere. <br />
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I run back into the store and hunt down my buddy. "Do you know anything about cars?" I ask him. <br />
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"No," he replies -- quite honestly, I will learn in short order -- , "but I'll see what I can do."<br />
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He tries his hand and foot at the wheel and the pedal, respectively. The car doesn't respond. He throws open the hood, stares thoughtfully at the inner and outer workings of the engine, and asks if I have Triple A.<br />
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I do.<br />
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I call for help. The tow truck guy sprays some stuff into the engine, when he arrives, explaining that sometimes something [insert technical name here or just use a term such as "floo-flah"] gets full of dirt and won't do what it needs to. My car doesn't respond to spray or explanations such as these.<br />
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My mechanic -- whose children I'm helping to put through college -- puts one of his helpers on it. This guy cleans the dirt out of the floo-flah flap, drives the car around for 15 minutes, and pronounces it cured. I breathe a sigh of relief, as the cost will be no more than that of one exceedingly thin college textbook.<br />
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The next day, I start the car up in the morning, but it refuses to move. The tow trucker tries to start it, but no dice. I tell him I just had the floo-flah flap fixed, but he's flummoxed. My car and I are towed to the garage, where the guy who cured it the day before is able to start it up with no problem. <br />
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My mechanic says they need to take a closer look. This time it's the fuel pump that needs to be replaced. I am now paying for his children to go to Harvard. <br />
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Somebody, please help me figure out how I can get a new-isher car for nothing -- the exact amount I have on hand to buy one. At this point, I'm even willing to drive something that advertises a product. Even a product I don't like. Floo-flah flaps, for example.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-48959782149802571262012-04-15T10:59:00.001-07:002012-04-26T15:39:30.666-07:00Failures (Richmond, VA)I'm proud of my successes, when I can come up with them. But there's something about my failures that really sticks with me.<br />
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Failed ballerina: Boy, that tutu looked good on me, an earnest five year old lacking rhythm, grace, and the knowledge of when to quit. I can't recall how many years I passed envisioning myself twirling and leaping when, in fact, I was wobbling and teetering on weak ankles, while hopelessly anticipating word that I had graduated to toe shoes. Alas, I never passed the barre. <br />
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The upside? Mr. Bruce's studio continued to receive financial support from my family for as long as they held onto the misguided dream that I would succeed on stage and en pointe.<br />
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Failed babysitter: Taking care of an 18-month-old boy, whose vocabulary of vulgarity exceeded my own by about 400 words, was an experience I'll never forget. When he pooped in his pants, I freaked. I had, up until then, neither viewed that particular part of the male anatomy nor changed a diaper. I stuck myself multiple times with safety pins, the screeching, flailing, foul-mouthed little hellion cursing me all the while, before I called my mother and pleaded for help. We lived across the street, so she came to my rescue. After bandaging the wounds the little pricks had left me, she laughed at my inability to change the delightful, smiling angel who allowed her to clean and clothe him without uttering a single f-word. She handed him, gurgling and dimpling, to the amazed 15-year-old me. Sap that I was, I found him suddenly adorable, as he puckered his tiny rosebud lips and slurped from his little sippy-cup. <br />
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Once my mother left, however, the devil returned. As if someone had wound him up, the little sucker launched himself out of my arms and rocketed from room to room. I chased him from kitchen to hallway, from guestroom to den to dining room, and, finally, into the living room, where he headed straight for the ornately framed wall-sized oil painting leaning against the painting-sized wall. Devil-child careened into the work of art. Hot on his heels, I slid to a halt and reached up to shield him from the falling artwork. My heroism saved his life; he scooted out, unscathed and cackling, as the painting landed on me. I crawled out from under, b bruised and scathed. Devil-child loved it! <br />
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And yet, somehow, both of us survived.<br />
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The upside? I waited many years to have a child. Fortunately, he was (and remains), if not always an angel, a really excellent human. <br />
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Supermarket cashier: As a high school senior, I worked in the neighborhood market, a job which one of my teachers noted would make me realize that "the world was not such a nice place." <br />
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She was right: I witnessed people stealing, was treated as if I were a complete idiot, and was accused of trying to cheat people when I charged the recently passed sales tax on their purchases. The worst was yet to come, however, when I was assigned to cashier in the Express Lane. <br />
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I noticed the five-times-my-size pit bull of a woman hulking behind the man requesting a pack of Marlboro's. My speed-walk to and from the locked cabinet in which cigarettes were stored was apparently not speedy enough. The pit bull was raging. While ringing up the man's order, I noticed Pit Bull's overflowing shopping basket and sweetly reminded her of the 10-item limit; she sneeringly replied that she only had a few things and she was correct. There were only five enormous bags of -- what else? -- big-dog dog-food. By the time I began to enter the prices, she was growling, and I was shaking. She barked at me to hurry up and then threatened to kill me for being too slow. I stopped the transaction, removed my apron, stepped out from behind the counter, and said, "You'll have to find me first." She was howling as I walked to the office and tendered my resignation.<br />
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The upside? I was no longer working in the supermarket when the manager held it up -- at gunpoint.<br />
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Waitress: Despite my inquiries at every office and retail business in my little hometown, I couldn't find a job that fateful summer. Walking forlornly along an unfamiliar stretch of roadway, I happened upon a tiny, rundown bar, neon lights lazing, in front of an equally seedy motel. Entering the darkened interior, I asked the buxom blond with cotton-candy textured hair piled atop her heavily made up head, if there were any jobs available. She gave me the once-over and giggled. In a breathy, little-girl voice that I, in my naive, 19-year-old wisdom, judged totally inappropriate for what I later came to believe was a centerfold come to life, "Candy" told me to take a seat, poured me a Coke, and told me she would call "Joe." Within minutes, "Joe" came out of a back room, stared hard at me and asked my age. <br />
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"Eighteen," I replied, although people usually mistook me for 12.<br />
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"I hire you and I'll have the police on my tail every five minutes," "Joe" said.<br />
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Somehow I convinced "Joe" that I would be an exemplary employee and that he wouldn't have to watch his tail. "He" told me I could start work the following week.<br />
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Elated by my success, I informed my family that I'd snagged a job just as soon as I arrived home. When I told my father the name of the place, his face turned ashen. Within an hour he had secured me a job as a waitress in a downtown deli. <br />
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My admiration for competent servers is boundless, because I never was able to command the skills necessary to be one. Balancing a tray was beyond me. Holding multiple plates on my arm was unrealistic; my arms are, apparently, only long enough to accommodate one plate -- on a good day. The only things I had going for me were that I was at least 45 years younger than the other waitresses and I was extremely friendly.<br />
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Although the dry cleaning bills I had to pay to remove the pickle-juice smells and potato-salad stains from my customers coats consumed most of my paychecks, I earned more working that deli lunch shift than I did working my first full-time office job. One middle-aged man would come in, order an omelet and a cup of coffee for a grand total of $2.50 and leave me a $5.00 tip. The veteran waitresses warned me not to bother with teenagers, but I always treated them well and they responded with generosity. I couldn't charm everyone, though. <br />
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One lunchtime, a woman sat down in my station and requested an egg salad sandwich. "I only have half an hour, so make it quick." she said. The place was bustling, and everyone else was equally pressed to eat and run, but I promised to deliver her food as soon as possible.<br />
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I darted around the room, refilling coffee cups, sloshing pickle juice, and serving up roast beef, corned beef, and tuna salad sandwiches at record speed. Every time I glanced up, I felt the woman's stare-turned-glare as she pointedly pointed to her watch.<br />
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I already had a plate of BLT and fries balancing precariously between shoulder and elbow and one filled with pastrami on rye with onion rings and coleslaw wobbling on my forearm when one of the sandwich-makers placed the the long-awaited egg-salad- hold-the-lettuce-and-tomato sandwich atop the high counter. As I reached above my head to grab the dish, I flicked my wrist. Half the sandwich went flying off onto the floor. A businessman promptly stepped on it, unwittingly delivering it, gloopily clinging to the underside of his loafer, out of the door and onto the pavement.<br />
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I couldn't look her in the face as I ran up to the waiting woman's table. Placing the half sandwich in front of her, I said, "They knew you were in a hurry, so they made this to get you started. The other half will be out in a minute." <br />
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That might have been my last meal.<br />
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The upside? I saved hundreds on dry cleaning.<br />
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Failed archeologist: After spending a week spooning away the tough, unforgiving soil of southern France, after suffering hours in the scorching sun with sweat-soaked, dust-encrusted clothes, after experiencing multiple and unrelenting attacks of giant, face-chewing flies, after unearthing nothing more than splinters of pottery shards that I didn't even recognize as such, after realizing that I couldn't distinguish one layer of dirt from the next, I finally acknowledged that I was unquestionably unqualified and unsuited for my chosen profession. The professional archeologist in charge of the excavation noticed this, too, and exiled me to the on-site museum.<br />
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The upside? I spent the remainder of the month ensconced in the cool, comfortable little museum, in the company of the companionable curator, identifying the paltry finds of those who were not fortunate enough to share my fate.<br />
The uppest side of all is that I have learned so much from my failures! As a matter of fact, I have never repeated a single one, preferring to look for new and improved failures in my never-ending quest for success -- whatever that is and however I define it...barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-70508999742063306372011-09-08T14:32:00.000-07:002011-09-08T14:32:06.658-07:00Acts of Nature (Richmond, VA)Mother Nature is showing her feisty side. <br />
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I'm tinkering in the kitchen when the whole house starts shaking. I assume that it's some idiot blasting his bass as he drives by, but the walls are wobbling more and longer than usual. My son must be moving furniture in his room! <br />
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In my most loving mommy voice, I call up the stairs, "What the HELL are you doing?!!!"<br />
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He yells back, in his speak-slowly-to-the-idiot voice: "It's an earthquake, Mom!" <br />
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No damage done here, although the 5.9er was felt from its epicenter -- about 20 miles away -- up through New England. Apparently, buildings were evacuated all over town and the East Coast. Reminds me of what my friend Ingrid said when we were talking about the huge and terrible 1985 quake that wreaked havoc on Mexico City. Seems that the only person who got hurt at the downtown hotel where we stay was a receptionist who ran out into the street and got hit in the head by falling pieces of buildings.<br />
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Less than a week after Big Momma Nature makes the earth move, she winds up the wind. Hurricane Irene pays us a little visit, downing power lines and turning out the lights for thousands. Leaves are stripped from branches, branches are torn from trees, and trees are toppled over fences, roofs, and streets. Rain pours down in sheets and blankets. Here on the hilltop where I reside, the winds whip and howl. My house's siding, as well as its fronting and its backing, take flight. <br />
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Unlike so many others, we remain powerful. I'm on line for hours, chatting with Facebook friends, neighbors, and relatives. We check up on and update each other as events unfold. <br />
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I recount our recent natural disasters to a Mexico-City friend, who says they had a quake there, too. <br />
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"When? I ask.<br />
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"Always," he answers.<br />
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As I have suffered no severe repercussions from Mother Nature's wrath and as I am blissfully unaware of the extent of power outages, tree downages, and home wreckages in the area, I am miffed that a monthly salsa dance has been canceled. I do understand the concern for safety behind the Dance Space's owners' actions, so my miffiness is somewhat tempered. I am hell-bent, however, on taking tomorrow morning's Zumba class; and Hell, bent or otherwise, has no fury like a woman who doesn't get her Zumba fix. <br />
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The gym is open on Sunday morning. While our regular instructor, Debra, saws her way through fallen boughs to reach us, a fellow Zumbista leads the first half of our session. Ryan's mock boxing moves precede Debra's belly dancing workout. I finish the class drenched and exhausted and relatively devitalized.<br />
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I spend the rest of the day visiting friends. In the front and back of my mind, I am thanking Mommy Nature that she didn't beat us to a pulp.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-63912989676931425822011-08-31T16:33:00.000-07:002011-08-31T16:33:57.087-07:00Adios, amigos! (Mexico City, Mexico)Final days in Mexico, 2011.<br />
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<i>Adios</i> to the construction workers whose table I join, in order to enjoy my final servings of <i>barbacoa</i>. One man wants me to adopt him. One pays for my breakfast. All wish me safe travels and a quick return to Mexico City. May you always find yourselves among friends!<br />
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<i>Adios</i> to my taco, sweet potato, and fruit vendors, to my favorite waitress, to my best chicken roaster, to the cooks and servers in my greasy-spoon holes in the wall, and to my least favorite restaurant owner. To the staff and guests of my D.F. hotel, to the workers in the internet cafes, the gum salesman, the hawkers in the subway, the shop clerks who sell me my spicy snack foods, and the used-book sellers, whose wares I peruse more often than buy. To the museum guards, the street musicians, the human statues, <i>adios</i>! <br />
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<i>Adios</i> to eating creatures with a face and four legs! Back to birds, fish, seafood, and a (principally) plant-based diet. <br />
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<i>Adios</i> to Ingrid, with whom I've shared visits to museums; coffee, ice cream and frozen yogurt shops; crafts markets; stores selling beads/jewelry, shoes, gourmet foods, and stationery; restaurants, churches, and all over town. We've shared stories and laughter to sustain us until (hopefully) we see each other next July in D.F. May you travel home and back safely, <i>meine Freundin</i>.<br />
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<i>Adios</i> to the much-too-little black dress and the other clothes that I leave behind. May others enjoy you! <br />
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<i>Adios</i> to the ten pounds that have left me without any effort on my part. May you never return!!!<br />
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<i>Adios</i> to all of my <i>salsa</i>, <i>cumbia</i>, and <i>son cubano</i> partners, from dance halls, clubs, and public parks. To those who've showed me patience and new steps, to those who've stoked my ego and those who've made me laugh and to all who have given me so much fodder for thought and for blogging. May you always step lightly, lively, and lovely!<br />
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<i>Adios</i> to all my Mexico-friends, old and new, Mexican, gringo, and others. Thank you for your hospitality and warmth, for showing me around, for inviting me in and out. I will miss you and hope to see you all again, in Mexico and/or the USA. <i>Mi casa es su casa.</i><br />
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<i>Adios</i> to a country that continues to challenge, enchant, delight, and thrill me, to capture my heart and my imagination. I've immersed myself in the richness of your language, food, music, dance, art, and crafts. I have explored just a fraction of your natural and man-made beauty and look forward to digging deeper and to seeing, hearing, tasting, feeling, doing, and learning more. Until next year? Now and forever: <i>Viva Mexico!</i>barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-4457935047760628082011-08-28T12:41:00.000-07:002011-08-28T12:41:15.247-07:00Vegetating (Mexico City, Mexico)August 8, 2011<br />
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I've heard mixed reviews about this place, but my body is demanding that I atone for my recent spate of meat-eating madness. So here I am, lunching at the vegetarian restaurant on Molina. <br />
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The salad bar boasts fresh greens and beautiful, ripe, red tomatoes; slices of cucumber; alfalfa sprouts and pea shoots; yellow squash and zucchini slivers with onion, tomatoes, and grated cheese; amaranth and granola for sprinkling. The vegetables are all raw and refreshing. <br />
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I take the recommendation of the waiter and order the cream of celery soup. It doesn't sound all that interesting but turns out to be light and pleasant. I take the recommendation of the pigeons hopping off the balcony railing and onto the table where a couple has left some of their bread, and I nibble on a whole-grain roll that's big enough to feed two humans and three pigeons. <br />
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A <i>pastate de zanahoria</i>, a block of shredded carrots bound together in a creamy souffle, follows. It is my favorite part of the meal. My main dish is two huge soy meatless balls, bathed in a pool of thin tomato sauce. <br />
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I return to the salad bar for a dessert of fresh chunks of watermelon, cantaloupe, and papaya. I've already downed practically a full carafe of watermelon water. I am happy. And no animals have been sacrificed on my behalf. <br />
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barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-62793661555661035122011-08-26T10:58:00.000-07:002011-08-26T10:58:23.005-07:00A Full Day (Mexico City, Mexico)Carol and I breakfast at Cafe Rex. She can't eat the soup; she's allergic to seafood, and nobody is sure that leftover paella hasn't been added to the mix. With or without consomme, our morning repast is hearty enough to sustain us throughout a very busy day -- Carol's last in D.F.<br />
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We start out by elevating up to almost the top floor of the <i>Torre Latino</i>, where we are treated to an assortment of (glass-enclosed but live) tarantulas and carnivorous plants. Despite the fascination and icky factor inherent in such flora and fauna, the main draw behind our attempt to overcome our fears of height is the 360-degree view of Mexico City and beyond. With some trepidation, we look out at the landscape, noting volcanoes, government and religious buildings, the sports stadium, airport, and lake -- a fantastic panorama which the clear, beautiful day has revealed. I am able to take in the breathtaking views without plastering myself against the interior walls; perhaps I've overcome my phobia, but I'm afraid to find out for sure.<br />
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Next stop: the <i>Museo of Artes Populares</i>, one of my favorite museums since my first visit there, not long after its opening. The temporary exhibit of mini-train cars, each one showcasing an important event in Mexican history, is evidence of the incredible talent, imagination, and skill that endear this museum to me. Pancho Villa, Father Hidalgo, Porfirio Diaz, and other people, as well as horses and dogs, are rendered as skeletons in different media: sheet metal, ceramic, tile, papier mache, and more. I love this museum for its stellar examples of Mexican folkloric arts and crafts, from the cigar-smoking skeleton-granny to the fabulous pottery, dolls, miniature instruments, <i></i>papel amato<i></i>, and textiles. We spend lots of time oohing and aahing in the galleries, as well as in the on-site gift shop. <br />
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Walking along Reforma, taking in the strollers, cyclists, and vendors, we buildup a little bit of an appetite for food that has no nutritional value and will probably precipitate our deaths. I've talked up Mexican junk food enough to entice Carol into buying us a bag of doughy rounds, to which the friendly seller adds chili, lime juice, and salt. Carol finds the orangey circles disgusting, and I am inclined to agree with her assessment that they resemble Styrofoam, in both taste and appearance. (Carol actually compares them to "plasticine" or "Pleistocene" or some other South African term I've never heard of but have taken the liberty of translating into something I can understand. But she also could have meant some kind of Ice Age icky stuff. But you'll just have to take my word -- i.e., Styrofoam -- for it.) She then buys a compensatory bag of chili-coated "crisps" (American-English translation: potato chips), which she finds equally revolting. I eat some of them -- they're salty and spicy and more reminiscent of cardboard than of Styrofoam -- before throwing away the soggy and truly horrible orange thingies and offering the remaining chips to a grateful old man. Carol will never trust my food recommendations again and is probably relieved and eager to be leaving for Acapulco tomorrow.<br />
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We're not done yet, however, with our whirlwind tour of some of Mexico City's treasures. At the <i>Palacio de Bellas Artes</i>, we view the magnificent art deco building and its impressive murals by Rivera, Siqueiros, and Orozco, as well as items from the permanent collection. Sculpture, paintings, and photography by some of the most renowned artists from around the world, including Picasso, Louise Nevelson, Dali, and Miro, are on display.<br />
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Carol, tired and needing to pack, returns to the hotel. I metro on to <i>Parque de la Ciudadela</i>, for an afternoon of dancing. But first, I stop off in the ladies' room, where my new purple bracelet sails off my wrist and straight into the toilet. I fish it out. Luckily, I'm packing both soap leaves and antibacterial liquid, which I apply liberally to bracelet, arm, and hand.<br />
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I'm actually too beat to dance much. Ismael swings me around a bit and an elderly man twirls me with skill and enthusiasm, but my feet hurt, and my left shoe is falling apart. I'm just not up for the challenges my partners present. Instead,I roam around the park, listening to singers interpreting romantic ballads, watching dance lessons, and admiring skilled dance partners as they practice complex patterns. Someone I don't recognize calls out my name. <br />
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In the mood for roast chicken, I swing by the 5th <i>de febrero</i> rotisserie. Unfortunately, it's closed. I find a holier than hole in the wall, enter, and -- who would imagine this? -- hit my head on the door frame when I go to wash up. (Being of average height has its downside and dangers.)<br />
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I order a <i>taco al pastor</i> and one of <i>cochinita pibil</i> from the tiny taco place (21 pesos for 3). Although they don't help my head, they satisfy my stomach. I get my just desserts at a nearby bakery: a cashew pastry that is crumbly and not too sweet, but absolutely addictive.<br />
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When I arrive back at the hotel, Carol is sitting in the lobby. She has a bag for me with "washing powder" (translation: detergent). She's already gifted me a South African woman's magazine, which she says she buys only for the crossword puzzles (which have another name in South Africanish), and a book that looks intriguing, as well as a bunch of cranberry Slim Slabs, which she says are delicious and will give me a jolt of energy. It's unlikely that I will see Carol again -- given the cost of and time involved with travel to and from South Africa -- and I will miss her. I don't give her anything, but I think she'll remember me whenever she comes across packing peanuts or glaciers. <br />
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barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-59520005701874060912011-08-12T12:23:00.000-07:002011-08-12T12:23:17.373-07:00Revenge of the Animals (Mexico City, Mexico)Saturday, August 6, 2011<br />
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What is going on with me? <br />
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Simple answer: Mexico is a difficult place in which to be a pseudo-vegetarian. I've given up and in. <br />
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I join the crowd sitting at tables set up in front of a doorway on Calle Regina. This morning's breakfast is a savory consomme with chickpeas and rice and a tasty taco of <i>barbacoa</i> (sheep or mutton!), to which I add cilantro, salsa, raw onions, pickled yellow and green peppes, and lime juice. No coffee here, so I take several giant steps to the Cafe Emir (on the corner of Isabel la Catolica and Regina). I don't know what possesses me to order a medium-strength coffee. I need diesel to fortify me for the day ahead.<br />
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After spending several hours on the Internet, I stroll over to Celaya, Mexico City's most famous candy store (according to the guide books). There are lots of intriguing sweets, but WHERE'S THE CHOCOLATE???? I run into fellow United Statian and hotel mate Jim, who buys a bag of what little chocolate items they sell. The verdict is "thumbs down," so we look for and find another sweets shop. Alas, although they carry a wider selection of chocolates, they all look ancient and unappealing. We resolve to get the scoop on the city's source from Ingrid, who's been coming here since the early 80's and will surely know where to direct us. <br />
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We walk through the Zocalo, where we split paths. I wander into the maze of streets surrounding the market near this historic central plaza. Thousands of vendors tout their wares, yelling the virtues of what they're selling to lure in us passersby. Thousands of us plow through the crowded streets and through piles of clothing, toys, pocketbooks, perfumes, and other merchandise. I am tempted by some fabulous little hat-hair pins, decorated in feathers and sequins. And the scarves. And the food. I resist everything but the candies, buying one block of amaranth studded with raisins and pumpkin and sesame seeds, another of peanuts united by honey or another sweetener, and a disc of caramelized nuts (3 for 10 pesos). No, they're not chocolate, but they will satisfy my sweet teeth.<br />
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I practically trip over the Museum of Jose Luis Cuevas (Academia 13, Centro Histórico). Cuevas' art is the stuff of dark thoughts and nightmares. He depicts people as deformed and monstruous. Lucky for me, there's a concert of sacred music taking place here, so I am serenaded by ethereal voices as I roam through the exhibitions. I develop a crush on the male soloist, a tenor. The crush fades whenever he stops singing.<br />
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Continuing my meat-marathon, I lunch on pork, Yucatan style -- a juicy taco of <i>cochinita pibil</i> (Here's a recipe, if you want to try it at home: http://mexicofoodandmore.com/traditional-dishes/yucatan/cochinita-pibil-recipe.html).<br />
I must confess that I am enjoying my carnivorousness, but -- animals can heave a sigh of relief! -- I don't intend to keep eating this way when back in the States.<br />
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Back at the hotel, I prepare for an afternoon of dancing in the park. Gerardo is going to accompany me. He'll take salsa lessons, while I dance to <i>son cubano</i>.<br />
I'm running late due to my unexpected foray into the museum, but I wouldn't keep my friend waiting had I not inserted a contact lens into my eye with a finger that still held traces of lunch's chili peppers. Ouch!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <br />
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I think the animals I've eaten have taken their revenge.<br />
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barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-90141867136684533122011-08-10T13:06:00.000-07:002011-08-10T13:06:39.483-07:00A Full Day (Mexico City, Mexico)Friday, August 5, 2011<br />
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Ingrid and I visit what promises to be one dud of a museum. We are pleasantly surprised by the Museo del Calzado El Borcegui -- the Shoe Museum (Bolivar 27, first floor, betwen Madero and 16 de septiembre). Not that we don't like shoes. Au contraire; I think shoe-love is in our genes. But we are charmed by much of the footware on display. <br />
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Fifteen thousand miniature shoes, made of materials as diverse as glass, porcelain, plastic, wood, ceramic, and animal hide, are delightful to see, but they are not what set our hearts a-pounding. There are 2,000 pairs of shoes on view -- Eat your heart out, Imelda Marcos! -- and, although the exhibits of sports shoes and astronaut's boots are nice, what interest us more are the shoes from different ages and from around the world (those itsy-bitsy foot-scrunchers from China, sandals from Mexico, high-walkers from Japan). Even better are the absolutely gorgeous 20th- Century shoes, many manufactured and designed in Switzerland (I didn´t realize they had a shoe industry there), Mexico, and Spain, which boast real leather and suede and brilliant details and fine workmanship from heel to toe. Luckily, the shoes are shielded behind glass showcases, because we might have slobbered all over them had we been able to examine them more closely and actually (Ooooh, the thought of it!) caress them.<br />
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At the Ciudadela this afternoon, a dance instructor and I discuss relationships. He is recovering from his fourth failed marriage and has sworn off serious entanglements. Probably a good idea.<br />
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The man who runs the weekly dances here has embarrassed me by calling out my name so many times that practically everyone knows who I am. People I don't recognize greet me as if I were their long-lost <i>gringa</i>. I dance with new and familiar young and old partners, including a former boxer-turned-professional-dancer, a fragile-looking elderly gent whose style and stamina astound, and a gum-chewing, dyed-blond wrestler-type, who laments that he hadn't met me earlier. As I leave the park, I receive one of the nicest compliments ever. "Traes tu luz," says a man with whom I've only danced once, and badly. "You bring your light." <br />
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It's still light out when Ingrid, Carol, and I set out for a farewell dinner. Carol is leaving shortly for Acapulco, after which she'll return to South Africa. We are dining at Cafe Tacuba, a "real" restaurant, about 40 notches and three stars above my usual eating establishments. <br />
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We begin the meal with a basket of good bread and -- something I haven't seen in my entire stay in Mexico, and rarely use at home -- butter. Carol treats us to a bottle of good red wine and, as we are serenaded by the talented resident musicians, we each offer a toast: "To our friendship!" "To our meeting again!" "To Mexico!" The combination of music, bread, and wine is... intoxicating. Or maybe it's just me, a.k.a. a cheap drunk.<br />
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Tonight we are determined to feast on <i>Chiles en nogada</i> (a seasonal specialty from Puebla), which comprises a mixture of ground beef, dried fruits, and pinenuts, stuffed into a large, mild green pepper, bathed in a creamy sauce, and sprinkled with pomegranate seeds. Interestingly, none of us are meat eaters: Carol eats poultry but not beef, lamb, or fish; Ingrid´s a full-blown vegetarian at home in Germany; and I'm a pseudo-vegetarian, eating poultry, fish and seafood but no red or the "other" white meat (i.e., pork). <br />
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Carol and I are a bit squeamish about the idea of eating an entire serving of beef, so we agree to split the <i>Chiles en nogada</i> with an order of chicken in <i>mole poblano</i> (the rich, dark sauce, also originating in Puebla, that contains chocolate and numerous other ingredients). After mopping up the sauces with warm, handmade corn tortillas, I am as full as my day has been.<br />
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barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-19295236595221925732011-08-09T11:24:00.000-07:002011-08-09T11:25:23.967-07:00Dancing It Off, Eating It Up, Drinking It In, Wrapping It up, and Mixing It Up (Mexico City, Mexico)Back in Mexico City. Highlights (Through August 4th):<br />
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Dancing It Off<br />
My clothes are baggy. That's because I've been dancing at the following locations:<br />
At the Park La Ciudadela<br />
Ismael teaches me new moves. <br />
Ricardo (a.k.a. Steven Segal, Jr.) makes me look like I know what I'm doing. <br />
A dance instructor asks if I have a background in ballet. I do. As a little girl, I took years of lessons. Lacking rhythm, talent, grace, coordination, and ability, I never moved on to toe shoes. Although I did look rather fetching in the red tutu my grandmother sewed for me, the clothes never did make me a ballerina. My mom would be so proud of me now! Or, perhaps, the instructor was being sarcastic....<br />
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At Salon Hidalgo<br />
My lovely buddy, Martin, dances well, even as he recuperates from a devastating elevator accident in which both feet were crushed and broken in multiple places. He tells me that I dance with <i>sabor</i> (flavor) and better than most. I love a good liar, don't you?<br />
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At Salon de Convenciones<br />
Some excellent dancers are spinning me around the floor these days, among them, a heavily tattooed guy; a tall dance instructor with indigenous features who tells me I have "ability"; and a huge, overweight guy whose feet seem to be attached to springs.<br />
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At the PRI's Headquarters<br />
New friend and good sport Gerardo accompanies me to a dance at the PRI (a political party) headquarters, although he's neither a dancer nor a party member. At 43, he is, however, the youngest person present.<br />
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Eating It Up<br />
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Museums<br />
I continue to indulge in and relish the cultural richness of this city. Along with Ingrid, I revisit the Diego Rivera Mural Museum (http://www.museomuraldiegorivera.<br />
bellasartes.gob.mx/). "Dream of a Sunday Afternoon in Alameda Central" is a dream of a mural, featuring people from Rivera's life, archetypes of Mexican culture, and famous personages from Mexico's history in Diego's provocative and inimitable style. <br />
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Museo de las Intervenciones (http://www.inah.gob.mx/index.php/especiales/221-museo-nacional-de-las-intervenciones-)<br />
Ingrid and I tour the former convent for the first time. This museum offers a history of foreign powers' interventions in Mexico. The gardens are gorgeous, the photos on exhibit are both familiar (if you've spent any time in Mexico) and memorable.<br />
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Food<br />
My friendly neighborhood vendor sells me delicious potato and cheese tacos <i>de</i><i> canasta</i>. When he asks if I'd like another, I tell him I would love one but I'm hoping my weight will go down rather than up, something that won't happen if I indulge in an extra serving. "With all due respect," he says, "you are very beautiful." A great way to start the morning, eh?<br />
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I eat chicken with a fabulous peanut sauce one day and with an incredible green <i>mole</i> sauce another in one of my greasy-spoon holes in the wall.<br />
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The tiny hotel porter asks me when I'm going home, then requests that I send him a postcard and a photograph.<br />
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The sleazy owner of Cafe Rex greets me and doesn't say or do anything obnoxious. What's going on? Possible explanations include, but are not limited to, the following:<br />
1) He finally got the message that his attentions are unwanted.<br />
2) Someone told him he was chasing away female customers.<br />
3) Someone told his wife about his (failed) attempts at womanizing.<br />
4) Someone cut off his...attempts.<br />
5) His wife is now working at the restaurant.<br />
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Drinking It In <br />
Ingrid, Carol (a South African psychoanalyst, in town for a conference), and I meet each night at "our" table in the hotel lobby. One of them brings a bottle of red wine, one of us secures glasses from the hotel restaurant, one of us brings something to nosh (Japanese-style peanuts, peanuts with garlic and chili, etc.), and we all drink and chat for a few hours before bed. We discuss opening frozen yogurt shops in our respective countries to sell the horchata-flavored frozen yogurt we've become addicted to. We talk about what we've done all day, compare our home lives and our lives here in Mexico, and they good naturedly blame me, as the sole representative of the USA, for all that is wrong with the world. We do this all in three different brands of English (Ingrid's is British), which often sets us off into spasms, hoots, and howls of laughter. <br />
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Occasionally, Jim from China by way of Virginia, joins us. He teaches and tests English-as-a-Second-Language students, translates and edits, and is writing a novel. He tells me that the owner of Cafe Rex stares at him incessantly when he stops in; perhaps the sleaze has found a new love interest and that is why he no longer bothers me. (Thanks, Jim!) Jim accompanied Ingrid on a tour to hear ghost stories and legends. During the tour, his mother called from the US, to tell him that she'd just seen a TV news program showing how dangererous Mexico City is. I don't think she felt at al lreassured when her son told her that he was, at that moment, in a cemetery.<br />
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Wrapping It Up <br />
I go shopping with my friends. My budget is so limited that I look and touch more than I buy. But I do pick up some cute bracelets and the figure of a woman/flying insect at La Ciudadela's wonderful crafts market. <br />
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Because my woman-insect is fragile, so Ingrid brings down some bubble wrap and tape one evening. While we're talking, I only burst 12 of the little bubbles. Had she brought the bigger-bubble wrap with the ultra-satisfying pops, I wouldn't be able to spend the night alone in my room with it.<br />
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The tour vendor in the hotel invites me to the movies. I tell him that I've got plans for the rest of my time in Mexico. He asks if he can go home with me and live in my house. "I'll fix things and help you out by getting a job and paying expenses," he tempts me. I tell him I've got plans for the rest of my life.<br />
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Mixing It Up<br />
Lingering too long at Starbucks, I'm enjoying the gorgeous day. I sit here nursing the dregs of my now-cold coffee, just people watching and staring into space. If it weren't for the street noise -- ear-splitting sirens, a competition among songs emanating from each storefront, sales pitches for fresh fruit and politicians blasting from the megaphones in passing trucks -- I would be utterly at peace.<br />
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I have mixed feelings about going home. I love my relaxed, stress-free Mexican life but miss my family and friends. I want to stay here forever. I want to travel to other countries, see new places, taste different foods, and learn about different cultures. I want to go home. I want to know, for certain, that I'll come back here.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-35312287748814434572011-08-06T10:58:00.000-07:002011-08-06T10:58:55.459-07:00Kicking back (Guanajuato, Mexico)Thursday, July 27, 2011 Don't hate me because I'm comfortable!<br />
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Another beautiful day, cool and comfortable. I hardboil some eggs for today's and tomorrow's breakfasts. With a little salt and freshly ground pepper, they are simple and simply amazing!<br />
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Nikki's off to Zacatecas. K and I drop her at the bus stop on our way to Dolores Hidalgo. We wind our way along the picturesque mountain highway, reaching the "Cradle of Mexican Independence" in plenty of time to take in three shops loaded with Talavera tiles, tableware, and <i>tchotchkes</i> (translation: knick knacks -- and, no, it's not a Spanish word). K buys a bowl in a purple peacock-feather pattern. I purchase painted ceramic knobs that will, I hope, transform a blah chest of drawers into a work of art.<br />
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We stroll around the main square and pop into the church, to view its ornate, guilded altars and its bloody Christ figure. Then we pick a pretty restaurant in which to dine on <i>entomados de queso</i> in (a, for me, too-sweet) <i>mole</i> and breast of chicken stuffed with squash blossoms, in a <i>huitlacoche</i> (corn fungus: sounds yucky but, trust me, it's yummy!) sauce. While waiting, we eat the <i>escabeche</i> (pickled cauliflower, carrot, jicama, chili peppers, and a tiny potato -- quite <i>picante</i>!) and sip our huge goblets of <i>aguas </i>(i.e., fruit waters: K's is watermelon; mine is tamarind). The delicious chicken comes with a side of mixed vegetables that would have been more welcomed had they not been previously frozen. The eggy, cumin-scented bechamel-sauced pasta, also on the plate, is sinfully rich and luscious. <br />
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K wants to check prices on some tiles that she'll use to form table tops, so we step back into the first Talavera shop we visited. We return to the car, which has, thankfully, not been ticketed nor booted nor towed --despite threatening street signs warning of the contrary. Shopped out, we don't bother stopping at a large store, which sells beautiful ceramicware and foodstuffs from a women's cooperative, that K. had pointed out on our way into town. <br />
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K. drops me off in downtown Guanajuato, so I can buy my bus ticket back to Mexico City. I wander around the beautiful city's center for a while, as it's my last opportunity to do so this time around. <br />
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Back at the house, I fill a glass with clamato juice and help myself to several lychees that have appeared in the fridge. (I don't advise you to try this at home, as the combination is truly disgusting; however, they are quite good when taken separately.) K comes downstairs and tells me to help myself to anything and everything in the kitchen.<br />
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Later, I do: A slice of lovely, gamey feta cheese. Some almonds. Blackberries. A spoonful of chipotle-jitomate sauce. A few black olives. A ripe fig. A glass of mango agua. I love eating this way!<br />
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I'm sitting on the terrace, feasting, when I hear pinging on the metal roof. Finally! A much needed, torrential rain obscures the view and cools down the already temperate temperature. Should it continue, I'll sleep really well tonight.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-47405644597168443812011-08-05T11:21:00.000-07:002011-08-05T11:21:50.183-07:00The Dead and Unburied (Guanajuato, Mexico)Tuesday, July 26, 2011<br />
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The bus ride from Queretero to Guanajuato is only about 2.5 hours long. Long enough to sit through multiple episodes of a TV series called "Mental," which I find entertaining, if far fetched, and better than some of the usual bus-movie fare. It is followed by a raucous French version of "Puss In Boots" that teeters between brilliance and obnoxiousness.<br />
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In the taxi up to K's house, I realize that I've left my sweater on the bus. Oh, well. One less thing to pack and carry.<br />
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The cab takes me through a tunnel, along the Panoramica, past two topes (sleeping policemen), and drops me off in front of the blue and white storefront, behind which stairs wind down to K's door. <br />
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I ring the bell and she opens the gate. I meet Nikki, from New Zealand, a fellow couchsurfer who's staying in the patio-level apartment. K leads me to the second floor, gives me keys and the same, lovely bedroom I stayed in last year, shows me the eggs and juices (watermelon, grapefruit, guava, and clamato), and leaves me to settle in, while she goes to tutor English to a young man (who never shows up). When she returns, we sip red wine, while she throws together a delicous Asian-style soup with beef broth, noodles, zuchhini, and onion. <br />
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Wednesday, July 27, 2011<br />
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I walk down numerous steps to the fetid-smelling river, turn left, and find a place to breakfast on <i>huevos a la mexicana</i>, coffee with hot milk, and warm bread that is so delicious I scarf up the entire basketful. Stomach full, I meander through the center of town, past the Quixote Museum, into and out of a crafts and jewelry shop that K thinks might be a front for money-laundering drug smugglers. I stop and go into other, less impressive shops with more reasonably priced merchandise, into churches, and past the theatre, market, parks, beautiful restaurants, and hotels. I continue my walk out of the more touristy sections of town as I go up, up, up to the Museum of Mummies, the one site my Guanajuatan students always recommend that I visit when I find myself in their hometown.<br />
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The mummies, including two French doctors and the world's smallest (fetus) mummy and its mommy, are 100% naturally preserved, all but one in wooden caskets, by the minerals present in the soil of the cemetery in which they were buried. Exhumed and exhibited years later, when no family member claimed the bodies, they are either prone or standing up (strone?), protected within glass showcases. (When some of the earliest ones were displayed, viewers made off with souvenirs (sp?) -- clothing and body bits. So, museum staff no longer take the chance that we will look and not touch and take out.)<br />
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Even leaving aside the purple-tinged fellow who died of asphyxiation, the man who was shot to death and whose deadly hole is gapingly apparent, and the woman whose raised and crossed arms prove she was buried alive, none of the leathery, papery corpses look pleased to be the subject of my and others' curiosity and scrutiny. Most of the eyeless faces bear anguished, pained expressions. They are definitely not resting in peace.<br />
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I come back downhill. Coming to a doorway where clothing and some ceramics are displayed, I step inside the little shop. The prices are reasonable, so I figure that I will replace my lost sweater. Half an hour later, I emerge still sweaterless, but with five new blouses (for less than $5.00, total). <br />
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Next stop is the market. It's lunchtime. A seafood soup bursting with shrimp, clams, oysters, fish, octopus, potatoes, and carrots is garnished with chopped onion, cilantro, and slivers of avocado. Accompanied by a crusty, fragrant roll, the fresh, but dead seafood helps bring me back to the land of the living and the hungry. I want to lick the bowl clean but remember my manners. <br />
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The climb back to K's house is exhausting. My panting and breathlessness prove that I am not quite as aerobically fit as I thought. I am relieved to know that 20-something Nikki finds the uphill hike equally challenging. She joins me on the second-floor terrace, and tells me about the decision she faces upon her return to New Zealand. Will she go back to "uni" to study biotechnology or wine science? (I know which one sounds more appealing to me!}<br />
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K joins us and we climb the stairs to her third floor digs, where the sun won't beat down on us with such furor. From her living room, an even better view of the brightly colored houses that dot hillsides and hilltops unfolds. K gives me a tour of her bedroom/office with its walk-in closet and promises that we'll go up to the roof at some point, to see the 360 degree view. Eventually, she'd like to put a structure there that will withstand substantial winds and rain and offer protection from the sun -- a perfect place to sit and enjoy a glass or two of wine, whatever the weather.<br />
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It's the rainy season, but it has not rained. The clouds look ominous and we hear thunder, but the much-needed downpours that will keep water flowing through pipes and revive the stinking river do not come.<br />
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K and I drive to an Italian restaurant she's been wanting to try. We share ravioli with mushrooms in a rich, rosemary-scented cream sauce and ziti with shrimp and (unfortunately, canned) black olives in a tomato sauce. With glasses of wine (she goes for white, I opt for red), we are quite satisfied. <br />
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It's still early when we arrive back at the house, but we retire to our rooms. I am looking forard to doing some reading and getting a good night's sleep.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-997212468875634481.post-73710909488998302072011-08-04T11:26:00.000-07:002011-08-04T11:26:01.965-07:00Out of Town (Queretero, Mexico)Sunday, July 24, 2011 Queretero<br />
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Art meets me at my hotel, so we can travel together to Queretero. As we catch up on a year's worth of goings on and off, we overshoot one of the 87 metro stations at which we have to change trains. It's simple to get back on track, and we arrive at the bus station, purchase our tickets, and have a full 30 seconds to scramble to our bus. <br />
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Art waits in line to stow my wheeled bag in the vehicle's luggage compartment. When I attempt to board the bus, I am told by the hand-baggage-checking official that my little carry-on won't fit. I assure him that it will, and we argue until I show him that I can shmoosh the bag into the space allotted and even squish it into the size of a postage stamp, if that's what it takes. I don't know if, with my rabid refusal to kowtow, I've scared him into submission or disgust, but he lets me through. Then I have the same argument with the guard who does the pat-down-weapon-search-wand-wave. I hold my ground and my bag -- and triumph. I mount the steps, laden now, too, with a plastic bag containing a refreshing BOING tropical fruit juice drink, a sweet chocolate sandwich cookie, and a disgusting sandwich sandwich that the refreshment lady gives to everyone who's traveling in our direction.<br />
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Before we pull out of the station, the camera guy videos each of us passengers. I don't know if this is an addition to his personal, G-rated collection of people in bus seats, a precaution just in case a terrorist or an over-sized carry-on has managed to get aboard despite multiple screenings and arguments, or a record of our almost-last moments should the bus tumble off a cliff, but it seems to be standard bus take-off procedure. <br />
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Once we're rolling, the movie begins. It's a subtitled, cop-buddy flick that looks both stupid and funny. Unfortunately, the driver decides that funny isn't at all necessary; he switches to a dubbed Brad Pitt-Martin Scorcese film that is predictable, forgettable, and stupid. I'm happy that the bus ride is quick, but slightly disappointed that we don't get to view the excellent Israeli film, "The Band," which starts just in time for our disembarkation in Queretero.<br />
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After dropping off our bags, Art and I eat dinner at the new Italian restaurant boasting a wood-burning pizza oven near his house. We chat with the owner while indulging in our individual, thin-crust pizzas with mushrooms and red and yellow peppers; an order of salty but tender, fried calamari on a bed of French fries (I did not want fries with that, but that's how they come); and some prize-winning gelato. I love my scoops of chocolate and Nutella so much that I don't even know what Art asked for.<br />
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To "<i>bajar la comida</i>" (make the food go down), we stroll the city streets. Every plaza is crowded with young people, families, musicians. In one of the plazas, we meet Art's charming girlfriend, Guadalupe, an educator-guide-graphic designer for Queretero's art museum (http://www.queretaro-mexico.com.mx/museo-arte/building.html). She uses her insider-status to gain us after-hours entry into the museum. She then gives me a fascinating tour of the gorgeous Baroque patio: Columns represent the three stages of life (childhood/youth; maturity; old age). There are carvings of animals, plants, and mermaids, and religious symbolism abounds. <br />
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Monday, July 25 Queretero<br />
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I awaken to a cacaphony of church bells, rooster calls, and train whistles. Art and I breakfast lightly on sweet rolls and coffee, as we're meeting Kim and Guillermo for brunch at 11:00 a.m. <br />
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At a "typical" restaurant with a chess theme, I dig into my <i>huevos divorciados</i> (divorced eggs), my ritual Queretero breakfast of one fried egg covered in tomato sauce, separated by a refried-bean barrier from another fried egg covered in green sauce. A glass of orange juice, a cup of cafe con leche, and a bite of of Art's half of a bready, not-too-sweet donut complete the meal. While eating, the four of us chat. <br />
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Although I introduced my friends to each other last year and despite Art's twice- daily walks past Kim and Guillermo's apartment, the three hadn't crossed paths again. Our conversation ranges from mutual friends in the U.S. to the progress of Guillermo's quality painting business (slow, but promising) to Kim's beginning search for a communications position that will permit her to either telecommute from Queretero or return, temporarily, to Virginia or Washington, D.C. My three compañeros exchange phone numbers, to facilitate their get-togethers between my visits, and Kim promises to let me know when she returns State-side -- which she must do every three months or so -- so we can grab lunch or coffee. <br />
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Art and I take a long, sunny walk from downtown to the aqueduct to view the huge, papier-maché <i>alijibres</i> (based on the fantastical animal figures, carved of wood and painted by Oaxacan crafters) beneath the arches. By the time we head back to his house, we've worked up an appetite.<br />
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On our way to see the sculptures, we pass by a Yucatecan restaurant that we might like to try, as well as a place with a pretty garden, where we spend time chatting with the owner. Unfortunately, both eateries are closed when we need them. <br />
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But there is always somewhere to eat. As we love seafood, we stop at a place near the market. It's near closing time here, too, and some chairs have already been upsided-down on tables, to enable floor mopping. The service isn't overly friendly. Still, it's the food we came for, and we are happy with our ceviche tacos, cheese quesadillas with shrimp and octopus, and seafood cocktails (a combination of mollusks and crustaceans in a tasty sauce of catsup and lime juice, with avocado slices). Art drinks a beer, while I down half a liter of horchata -- turning a low- calorie feast into a high-calorie one. <br />
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We meet up with Guadalupe again and stop at a mall on the way to dropping her at home. We walk around the center, recommending hideous pairs of running shoes for Art to buy and trying to figure out which Spanish word is the most beautiful, based on sound, not meaning. In a competition, a Mexican actor had just judged that "Queretero" was the most lovely. Our judgment was that he was paid off by the city's politicians. I suggest almond -- "almendra." We crack up as I repeatedly bark out ¨Queretero" -- as if it were a curse -- and practically sing "almendra," so they can truly appreciate its obvious superiority in the beautiful word category.<br />
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Tuesday, July 26 Queretero <br />
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After the same breakfast at the same place as yesterday, Art and I tour an exhibit of paintings. He's got a piece in the show, a multi-colored abstract entitled "Coral Reef," which includes dabs of orange and red which my color-blind artist friend can't see. He comments that he'd tempered the brightness of the colors and that one of his friends (or, perhaps, frenemies?) had said that the painting "looked better in the dark." I like it (in the light), as well as two other thought-provoking pieces. One is a mix of delicate line drawings, words, and collage; another ia an oil that suggests images of people as I see them when I don't wear glasses or contacts -- fuzzy, indistinct, faceless, and melded together into hilly formations.<br />
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With time running short, Art drives me to the bus station and we say our goodbyes. I'm off to Guanajuato.barbaravahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01787948064775137218noreply@blogger.com2